3 secrets to raising good children 2
`I want to eat cake. I want to eat cake` Whether we hear this from our children or someone else, it is often accompanied by screams that can echo throughout the supermarket or grocery store.
There is an ancient Chinese saying: `Parents who are lenient are easily overwhelmed by their children.`
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Consistency
The philosophy behind the consistency technique is that we don’t want to spark arguments and fights with our children.
How to do it?
For example:
Before implementing the consistency technique:
Child: I want candy!
Parents: No, let’s go.
Child: But I want candy (crying)
Parents: Come on, no candy.
Child: I want candy, I want candy!
Parents: We need to go home now.
Child: But I want this candy.
Parents: Okay, okay, I’ll buy it.
When performing the resolute technique:
Child: I want candy!
Parents: Don’t buy candy today.
Child: But I want candy!
Parents: Don’t buy candy today.
Child: I want candy!
Parents: Don’t buy candy today.
And finally, children have to give up.
The consistency technique works because children get bored and learn that whining and whining doesn’t help them get what they want.
Be the one who decides
When dealing with difficult situations, we must remain resolute in our role as parents.
With determination, we will have more strength to extinguish negative behaviors.
Focus on the positive and ignore the negative.
Just visit your local supermarket and you can see examples of parents rewarding their children’s screaming with attention.
Statistics show that only 75% of mothers and about 50% of fathers take their children to school every day.
By using these 3 parenting secrets in your daily life, you will start to see more positive behaviors and less negative behaviors in your children.
Vuong Linh (according to Yourtango)
